Consider $2M: The Cost of Long-Term Care For One Aging Parent

Consider $2M: The Cost of Long-Term Care For One Aging Parent

Carolyn L. Rosenblatt, RN, Attorney, AgingParents.com

Every year since 2004, private long term care insurer, Genworth has conducted a national survey to determine the average costs of care at home, and in facilities. The data is broken down by state, with the median price listed. The bottom line: the cost of care is rising significantly in all the four general areas Genworth studied. It is also rising in the areas it did not study. Inflation is affecting how much it costs elders and families to keep them at home or in any living situation.  The Genworth study includes home care, adult day health, assisted living and nursing homes. There is a lot more to consider than what the Genworth study shows. Long-term care is not limited to the things this insurer pays for when you buy a product from them.

The median monthly costs in the U.S. for two of the services studies are outlined in the 2021 report from Genworth:

Homemaker services (help with cooking, cleaning, transportation, shopping, etc.) $4957

Home Health Aide (personal care: eating, bathing, dressing, walking, bathroom, etc.) $5148

In a book we wrote for financial planners, Hidden Truths About Retirement & Long Term Care (AgingInvestor.com, 2017), we detail how about 70% of us are going to need some kind of long term care in our lives. And we discuss how most of us live in The Great American Fantasy that it won’t happen to us, that we will be fine and die quietly in our sleep at age 100 in full control of our faculties. In the book, we urge financial advisors to help clients get out of fantasy and into the reality that dollars need to be set aside to pay for what Medicare does not cover; so called “custodial care” that is not medical in nature. That includes things like home care workers, home modification to accommodate disabilities, assisted living and other things many people eventually need. We discuss the advantages and disadvantages of all the choices.

Here are actual costs we learned about from clients in two real cases.

Four Years of Home Care

One of them, described in our book from 2017, was about a man who lived to be 95 and never wanted to be in a facility. His wife hired caregivers to keep him at home. Long term care insurance defrayed some of the cost but most came out of pocket. The bill for the 24/7 care he received over four years of increasing dependency: $2M. There was nothing unusual about his needs. He just got more frail and had more care issues over time. That’s typical of how some of us are going to age. At the end, he had four caregivers in shifts, a specially fitted van with special wheelchair, a home stair chair, a lift to get him into the bath, numerous other kinds of devices to help and huge increases in the cost of maintaining the home with all the help. That cost would be significantly higher in today’s dollars.

The Outrageous Cost Of A Difficult Elder’s Care

In another, current case we work with at AgingParents.com, there is an elder with unusual needs. The family has a very difficult mother with dementia. She is calm until certain personal care must be given. Her mental state is confusion. She hallucinates and thinks she is being attacked when the family member or paid caregiver attempts to clean or bathe her. She gets very combative, with kicking, biting and punching those next to her. She calms down after the personal care but it takes two people to keep her from hurting anyone. She is astonishingly strong for a woman in her 80s. Her physical assaults happen multiple times a day when she needs cleanup. The family will not put her into a care home. No home would accept her this way. Rather, they would medicate her into a stupor so she would be more manageable. The family won’t have that. Her lighter medication at home allows her to be engaged with those around her in a good way. All except  at those time of the close personal care.

This family is paying $50,000 a month for home care workers from two different agencies to help them. They can’t do it alone. They can’t manage with just one caregiver at a time. It takes two at a time to do the job. The cost is draining their assets and there is no end in sight. As this keeps up, the family will be spending $600,000 in 2022 to care for their mother.

Assuredly, not every elder is as difficult as the combative and confused mother in this case. But some elders do become very hard to care for. If one has strong feelings about not over-medicating a loved one, the choices can get very expensive.

It can take a good strategy to manage the care of an elder at home. It is not as simple as just buying long-term care insurance when the elder still can qualify for it. It may take working with a competent financial planner who understands that the limited things this insurance pays for do not fully protect anyone from out-of-pocket costs.  Many additional things may be needed to maintain an aging loved one at home, where most people want to be. Financial planners tend to promote having income to pay for “the lifestyle to which you are accustomed”. No one is accustomed to a lifestyle of needing 24/7 care at home. However that is a reality anyone needs to discuss with a competent financial advisor, as it can happen to any of us.

Overall, this is a wake-up call for anyone who has not thought through how to pay for long term care. If it is your own aging loved one, you can’t ever be sure that they won’t need assistance from a paid source in the future. If it is yourself, at or near retirement age, be wise about how you look at the need 70% of us may have as we get older. Long-term care can be simple for some. It can be a huge, heavy burden for others. The wise retiree will consider the risks of getting old, living long and the likely need for paid help at some time in their future.

Advising Your Longest-Lived Clients

Advising Your Longest-Lived Clients

It used to be that we could think of retirement in a kind of predictable way. People lived into their 70s perhaps, and we measured retirement by that. We used tables, algorithms and other tools to tell us how much we should save and how much we could spend in retirement. And it was all based on assumptions that may no longer apply.

Life expectancy for a woman in the U.S. in 2018 was 84 years. For a man, the figure is 80 years. Those averages do not take into account the fact that well educated and financially secure people live longer than average. This is presumably based on the notion that people who know what a healthy lifestyle is and who can afford the best medical care will outlive those who do not have those advantages. In my own county, for example, which has a high proportion of elders compared to other counties in California, one wealthy city shows a life expectancy for men of 93 years.

Suppose that your aging client lives to be 93, having retired at age 65. That's 28 years of retirement. What the algorithms don't clarify is what you, the advisor needs to plan for with your client during the last decade of life, from 83-93.  No formula is going to help you with the individual discriminations you need to make concerning your client's risks for care and how to assess and plan for them. They can be a substantial cost, out of pocket, not covered by Medicare, and absolutely necessary.

The way we age is determined by two main factors: hereditary tendency and lifestyle. Our genetic makeup directs only about 30% of the equation. The other 70% is driven by the way we choose to live our lives.  There are plenty of folks who think that a healthy lifestyle is just too much bother. They avoid exercise, eat whatever they feel like eating, never learn to manage stress and say they'd rather die a few years sooner than give up their habits, which their doctor advises against.

Here's the problem with that belief. Leading an unhealthy lifestyle does not just cause you to "die sooner". Rather, it may likely cause you to live with impairments, disabilities and a need for expensive long term care for chronic health conditions. These can go on for decades.

Take obesity, for example. Over two-thirds of Americans are overweight or obese. Obviously excess weight increases our risks for all manner of health issues, including diabetes, heart disease, high blood pressure, and strokes. When a doctor makes a diagnosis of one of these, the person doesn't typically just die on the spot and save a lot of expense later on. No. The medical providers will keep the person going with medications, surgery in some cases, lots of diagnostic monitoring and trips to the doctors. These chronic conditions usually lead to disability late in life, particularly when more than one of them exists in the same person.

If you have aging clients, you definitely need to understand health risks in a basic way, so that you can help your clients set aside funds for the care they are likely to need in the last years of their retirement lives.  All of the chronic conditions I mentioned are manageable with an effort toward a healthy lifestyle but for those who do not wish to do the work involved, you can bet on a likely need for long term care. While you can't predict the future, you can plan for risk. It's what you do.

My own mother in law had high blood pressure and chronic kidney disease for decades. She worked vigorously at diet, exercise, social activities and other components of a healthy lifestyle. Heredity was not on her side. She lived to be 96. During the last 3 years of her life, she needed help. She moved to a seniors' community where help was available and eventually, she paid for private caregivers. Her cost of living at the last part of her life was $120,000 a year. If this were your client, would he or she have at the ready $360,000 to pay for care? How about if there was no pursuit of a great lifestyle? The care expense could easily be 10 years.

The takeaway here is that advising for longevity needs to include the skill of assessing fundamental health risks that create a need for out of pocket, long term care. You don't need to be a doctor and you can't predict everything, but you can do what is reasonable to help your client plan. Ask the right questions. Keep track of your client's general health picture.

To learn more about what to look for and what to ask, get Hidden Truths About Retirement & Long Term Care, available at AgingInvestor.com and on Amazon.

By Carolyn L. Rosenblatt, RN, Elder law attorney, AgingInvestor.com

Planning for Longevity: It’s Not About “Housing”–It’s About Care

Planning for Longevity: It’s Not About “Housing”–It’s About Care

The financial services industry often refers to retirement planning for the future with aging clients in terms of "housing choices". This reflects some degree of misperception about what happens as we age. For healthy people of retirement age, there is little interest in planning for the need for care and planning for loss of independence. People usually resist talking about it. We don't choose to lose our independence. It happens. It is up to the advisor to raise it if you want to advise for longevity. The subject is emotional and can be difficult.

Where we need to get help when we can't be independent any longer is really a choice about care, rather than housing. This is not house shopping.  Does a client want to pay for care in her own home when that time comes? Most would say yes, they want to remain at home. They then must calculate what a home care worker costs and whether that is the best way to receive the help they are likely to need one day with their activities. Can the resources be available to enable that choice of where care will be given?

If an elderly client is living alone and can't manage at home anymore without assistance, there are indeed choices, often driven by the degree of care needed and the cost of getting it.  Elders may not be interested any longer in maintaining a house, cooking, shopping, and other necessary chores. For them, assisted living may be desirable because their daily lives will be different and free from the burden of the household that has become unmanageable. The choice to go to assisted living is usually not one a client is going to make because of wanting to downsize into an apartment for its own sake. Rather that is the price of going to the place where assistance is on hand. Again it is to receive care, not because they love the idea of not having their home any longer. For many elders, downsizing from a house to an assisted living apartment is a difficult adjustment, required because of physical or mental changes of aging. From that perspective it is a choice forced upon them.

A factor every advisor should know is that the likelihood of living alone increases with age. Almost half of women age 75+ lived alone in 2010, according to the Institute on Aging. The "choice" of a different living arrangement is brought on by safety and care concerns, often raised by their adult children.

It will be good for every advisor who wants to help clients plan for longevity to consider that their role is to introduce the issue of possibly needing care in the future, as about 70% of us will one day. If your client has you in her life, she already has housing. Planning for "housing" is a misnomer. Focus on places and choices where care can be delivered. Having no care plan can be disastrous, as sudden health crises can force decisions without considering the cost of care in advance.

In helping to educate your client about where he or she can receive care, the costs of all the offerings available in most areas are spelled out in detail in our book, Hidden Truths About Retirement & Long Term Care. You can develop quick expertise on the subject there. Skilled advice about longevity for your aging clients requires knowing your numbers, what care options are available where they live and how much they can expect to spend for that care. Smart advisors gather the data before a crisis happens and urge clients to look at it with them.

By Carolyn L. Rosenblatt, RN, Elder law attorney, AgingInvestor.com

Advising for Longevity: Why Advisors Must Consider Older Clients’ Health Issues

Advising for Longevity: Why Advisors Must Consider Older Clients’ Health Issues

Your clients are getting ready for retirement. You’ve done the calculations, balanced the portfolio and advised them of what income to expect. You’ve discussed how much spending is ok. You used your program and your analysis was thorough. You’ve done your job, right?

Not exactly. There is probably no algorithm nor program that will calculate your client’s individual profile of health risks that will likely lead to the expense of long term care. That can be a whopper. Maybe you’ve suggested long term care insurance. Most people don’t choose to buy it. For those who do, the benefits are limited and the “elimination period” (deductible) is thousands of dollars. There go your careful calculations. At least 90% of folks don’t have that coverage. Now what?

But how can you predict what’s going to happen to anyone’s health in retirement, you ask. You can’t be precise, but you surely can make some rational observations and give advice accordingly. Those observations consist of two parts: what you can see with your own eyes and what you can glean by asking a few basic questions. If you think asking any client about their health conditions is too nosy or not your job, consider that if the client needs long term care and runs out of money because of it, they’re not going to think much of you. And the cost can wipe out their security.

Asking about health issues is not nosy at all. Rather, it’s what any smart advisor planning for longevity must do. Let’s not keep pretending that everyone stays the same physically and mentally from the start of retirement to end of life. Our bodies go through wear and tear and things break down. Cognitive decline affects at least a third of people who reach the age of 85. The risk of Alzheimer’s disease keeps climbing after that. Now, what was that life expectancy you were using in your calculation? Was it age 99?

Let’s start with what you can see in your client with your own eyes. (If they’re not in front of you, perhaps Skype is an option). Is your client obese, as about 40% of the U.S. population is? This leads to heart disease, stroke, and diabetes, among other diseases and conditions. The medical care people receive in many cases will save them from dying but they then live with disabilities. And yes, they will be very likely to need expensive long term care. Neither health insurance nor Medicare will cover long term care. Such help as a part time caregiver at home is how most folks start out with long term care. Your client pays out of pocket most of the time. Did you calculate how much it costs as well as how long they will likely need it? If they have multiple medical conditions, and have started long term care, they’ll probably continue to need some form of it for all their remaining years.

Find out what you may not know from simply observing your client’s appearance by asking questions. You can make your own list or get a health care provider to help you with a few targeted questions. You will need to educate your client as to the reason why you need this information. It’s to help them plan for how much to save in their retirement years.

Here are some examples of basic questions that can help you predict the need for possible long term care:

  1. How’s your health these days? Has a doctor told you that you have any long term conditions?
  2. Are you taking medications? What are they for?
  3. Do you smoke?
  4. Are you concerned at all about any health issues you have at this time?
  5. Do you recall your parents’ ages when they died?

Your aging clients will not be eager to talk about the potential need for long term care. When you told them about what to expect for “out of pocket medical costs in retirement”, you did not give them a figure that included long term care. Long term care is not “medical” according to Medicare. Rather, it is called “custodial care”. The client probably will not bring it up, so you must do this.

When you have done your observations and gotten answers to your health-risk related questions at least there is a place to start a meaningful conversation. You can give them figures as to the cost of typical kinds of care, such as a non-medical home care worker. We at AgingInvestor.com recommend starting your projections at age 80 as to when a person might need physical help. Many of us know someone who did require help with at least some part of his or her life at that age. Then you can talk about how any condition your client identifies for you, such as high blood pressure, diabetes, etc. as shortening normal life expectancy and increasing the risk for needing help. If your client already has difficulty with some normal daily activity such as walking or bathing, they are definitely at high risk for needing paid help sooner than a person without these problems.

Clients may be completely unaware of such things as the hourly cost of a home care worker, what assisted living costs each month and what home modifications cost if they are able to remain in their own home. You can find a thorough discussion of these and many other parts of long term care in our book, Hidden Truths About Retirement & Long Term Care, written specifically for financial advisors like you.

Every conscientious advisor needs to wake up to the reality that your retirement income calculator omits the reality check of health problems. We’re not talking about nursing homes, but every other kind of care and help most people will need as they age. If you do want to help clients who are reaching retirement age to plan realistically, include the health risks you can see or learn about by asking.

By Carolyn L. Rosenblatt, RN, Elder law attorney, AgingInvestor.com

The DOL Fiduciary Standard & The Future: Your Client’s Heirs Are Watching You

The DOL Fiduciary Standard & The Future: Your Client’s Heirs Are Watching You

With the recent Texas Court of Appeals decision striking down the authority of the DOL to enforce its fiduciary standard, the industry remains enmeshed in its own conflict. Some firms embraced the concept of acting in a client's best interests for retirement accounts. Others fought it tooth and nail. What about your own clients if you are a broker and do not have to follow the DOL rule? Do you think no one is going to question you, your advice, or your commissions and fees?

With the amount of publicity generated in the long fight to get the rule passed in the first place, and the aftermath efforts to have it overturned, the public is more aware than ever of the need for transparency in what you recommend and in what advice you offer. Some clients may trust you and never ask a question about why you suggest a product, but don't count on that being universal. The public's perception of what you do is changing and in a sense, the cat is out of the bag.

In their marketing, firms that embraced the fiduciary standard can brag about it and when you have rejected the premise of prioritizing a client's best interest, you can't brag about it. In fact, prospects may be asking more and more often whether you are a fiduciary. What are you going to tell them?

Here at AgingInvestor.com, we educate advisors of all stripes about managing aging clients, particularly those with diminished capacity. Our associated site, AgingParents.com, is a resource for those with aging loved ones. At AgingParents.com, we advise and counsel families about watching over their aging parents' finances and we strongly encourage them to review what their elders are doing with their money. When they follow our advice, they are going to be looking at what you've done with the elder's portfolio. If you adhere to a fiduciary standard, no problem is likely. If you don't, beware. Your client's heirs are gradually assuming power over their parents' investments as their loved ones age and become less capable of financial decision making. Dementia is a frequent cause of loss of capacity. Often the adult children can take over as successor trustees or agents who are appointed as power of attorney long before the parent passes.

About 70% of women change advisors after the death of their spouses. Their adult kids will be encouraging them to find someone with a fiduciary standard. Perhaps large numbers of adult children will switch advisors before the death of the patriarch, once they scrutinize what choices you have recommended. They may even get a second opinion about your work.

This is merely a caution to any advisor who does not adopt a fiduciary standard, regardless of whether it is mandated legally. The next generation is looking at a parent's portfolio with fresh eyes and you may lose clients because of this. Keep the older clients in your book  for life and future generations by staying the course as an advocate and making decisions in their best interest, always.

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