Consider $2M: The Cost of Long-Term Care For One Aging Parent

Consider $2M: The Cost of Long-Term Care For One Aging Parent

Carolyn L. Rosenblatt, RN, Attorney, AgingParents.com

Every year since 2004, private long term care insurer, Genworth has conducted a national survey to determine the average costs of care at home, and in facilities. The data is broken down by state, with the median price listed. The bottom line: the cost of care is rising significantly in all the four general areas Genworth studied. It is also rising in the areas it did not study. Inflation is affecting how much it costs elders and families to keep them at home or in any living situation.  The Genworth study includes home care, adult day health, assisted living and nursing homes. There is a lot more to consider than what the Genworth study shows. Long-term care is not limited to the things this insurer pays for when you buy a product from them.

The median monthly costs in the U.S. for two of the services studies are outlined in the 2021 report from Genworth:

Homemaker services (help with cooking, cleaning, transportation, shopping, etc.) $4957

Home Health Aide (personal care: eating, bathing, dressing, walking, bathroom, etc.) $5148

In a book we wrote for financial planners, Hidden Truths About Retirement & Long Term Care (AgingInvestor.com, 2017), we detail how about 70% of us are going to need some kind of long term care in our lives. And we discuss how most of us live in The Great American Fantasy that it won’t happen to us, that we will be fine and die quietly in our sleep at age 100 in full control of our faculties. In the book, we urge financial advisors to help clients get out of fantasy and into the reality that dollars need to be set aside to pay for what Medicare does not cover; so called “custodial care” that is not medical in nature. That includes things like home care workers, home modification to accommodate disabilities, assisted living and other things many people eventually need. We discuss the advantages and disadvantages of all the choices.

Here are actual costs we learned about from clients in two real cases.

Four Years of Home Care

One of them, described in our book from 2017, was about a man who lived to be 95 and never wanted to be in a facility. His wife hired caregivers to keep him at home. Long term care insurance defrayed some of the cost but most came out of pocket. The bill for the 24/7 care he received over four years of increasing dependency: $2M. There was nothing unusual about his needs. He just got more frail and had more care issues over time. That’s typical of how some of us are going to age. At the end, he had four caregivers in shifts, a specially fitted van with special wheelchair, a home stair chair, a lift to get him into the bath, numerous other kinds of devices to help and huge increases in the cost of maintaining the home with all the help. That cost would be significantly higher in today’s dollars.

The Outrageous Cost Of A Difficult Elder’s Care

In another, current case we work with at AgingParents.com, there is an elder with unusual needs. The family has a very difficult mother with dementia. She is calm until certain personal care must be given. Her mental state is confusion. She hallucinates and thinks she is being attacked when the family member or paid caregiver attempts to clean or bathe her. She gets very combative, with kicking, biting and punching those next to her. She calms down after the personal care but it takes two people to keep her from hurting anyone. She is astonishingly strong for a woman in her 80s. Her physical assaults happen multiple times a day when she needs cleanup. The family will not put her into a care home. No home would accept her this way. Rather, they would medicate her into a stupor so she would be more manageable. The family won’t have that. Her lighter medication at home allows her to be engaged with those around her in a good way. All except  at those time of the close personal care.

This family is paying $50,000 a month for home care workers from two different agencies to help them. They can’t do it alone. They can’t manage with just one caregiver at a time. It takes two at a time to do the job. The cost is draining their assets and there is no end in sight. As this keeps up, the family will be spending $600,000 in 2022 to care for their mother.

Assuredly, not every elder is as difficult as the combative and confused mother in this case. But some elders do become very hard to care for. If one has strong feelings about not over-medicating a loved one, the choices can get very expensive.

It can take a good strategy to manage the care of an elder at home. It is not as simple as just buying long-term care insurance when the elder still can qualify for it. It may take working with a competent financial planner who understands that the limited things this insurance pays for do not fully protect anyone from out-of-pocket costs.  Many additional things may be needed to maintain an aging loved one at home, where most people want to be. Financial planners tend to promote having income to pay for “the lifestyle to which you are accustomed”. No one is accustomed to a lifestyle of needing 24/7 care at home. However that is a reality anyone needs to discuss with a competent financial advisor, as it can happen to any of us.

Overall, this is a wake-up call for anyone who has not thought through how to pay for long term care. If it is your own aging loved one, you can’t ever be sure that they won’t need assistance from a paid source in the future. If it is yourself, at or near retirement age, be wise about how you look at the need 70% of us may have as we get older. Long-term care can be simple for some. It can be a huge, heavy burden for others. The wise retiree will consider the risks of getting old, living long and the likely need for paid help at some time in their future.

What Extraordinary Advisors Do For Retiring Clients That Other Advisors Miss

What Extraordinary Advisors Do For Retiring Clients That Other Advisors Miss

Every advisor wants clients to think that he or she is unique, different, better than the competition. Maybe you are. But if your retirement planning with them stops at calculating their planned retirement income and preserving their assets, you’re not extraordinary. It takes more than that to be outstanding.

Standing out among the others means that you are looking at the client’s entire life and relationship to their family members. Acquiring the courage and skill to do that is how you distinguish yourself from the next advisor down the street or anywhere. So how do you do that? Aren’t you just supposed to do a good job managing the money?

Advising about and managing the money is your essential bedrock, and then there is service above and beyond. That’s the unique play, going beyond average. It’s not so hard to do, but it may be outside your usual comfort zone. You assess. You discuss difficult subjects clients may not want to talk about. You take the time. You communicate more often than the next guy or gal. You offer tools. You become a sort of coach, encouraging a retiree or soon-to-be-retired client to do things that will make life easier for everyone around them. Your guidance can help not only your client, but every person whose life is touched by what your client does and fails to do. Most will likely think how wonderfully unusual you are for doing this. The average advisor won’t bother with any of it but not being ordinary, you can shine.

Let’s start with one tool you can use, created at AgingInvestor.com (free download here). In this article, we address the first item on our Ten Step Checklist For Smart Retirees. The first step is:

Decide whom you want to communicate with about your future. Set a date and sit down together.”

This sounds simple but it’s not. Clients’ families frequently have poor communication about aging, the potential for needing help, and finances. The elders may want secrecy. Everyone may be afraid to talk about end of life. Although wealthier folks usually do better with estate planning than the less wealthy, not everyone takes the time to update their legal documents and your client’s loved ones need to know this. If you, the advisor encourage a family meeting (or friends meeting if there is no family) specifically about basic topics in your client’s future, that can get the ball rolling on communication about other essential matters related to getting older. The communication must address the real risk of becoming impaired with aging. The checklist is a guide for your client, a place to start. If a client does these steps, it will save everyone enormous and avoidable aggravation later.

Our checklist has ten steps in it. We’ll go through all the ten steps and why they are crucial in subsequent posts. Get your copy today and consider having a conversation with every client age 55 and older in your book about the checklist. You hand it out to them and discuss how to use it. You can bring it up at portfolio review, on the client’s birthday or at the time of retirement. If you want to set yourself apart, talking about things besides the client’s income in retirement will indeed set you apart.

By Carolyn Rosenblatt, RN, Attorney, AgingInvestor.com

 

The Big Tabu: Facing the Financial Industry’s Older, Impaired Financial Advisors

The Big Tabu: Facing the Financial Industry’s Older, Impaired Financial Advisors

At its Senior Protection Conference on November 12, 2019, FINRA took a cell phone poll of broker-dealers. They wanted to find out how many were worried about aging registered representatives at their firms.  The result: 65% were worried, according to the report published in Financial Advisor.  Yes, aging B-Ds are a problem.

Here at AgingInvestor.com, we’ve been sounding the alarm about this problem since 2016, when we published our book, Succeed With Senior Clients: A Financial Advisor’s Guide to Best Practices. “The Elephant in the Room” chapter dives into how impairment in advisors affects the industry and how that most definitely will affect their work with clients. A B-D or advisor whose memory and judgment are impaired, even in the early stages, can expose the firm to liability for mistakes these folks make. Cognitive decline should not be taken lightly.

The speakers at the conference offered attendees very little concrete advice on how to address the problem of an impaired advisor. What could one expect of them? They have no training nor skill set in identifying diminished capacity themselves. Without expertise, their discussions lack action plans.

As aging experts ourselves (RN, Elder law attorney and geriatric psychologist) and a resource to the industry, we question the suggestion that one should wait for “performance issues” to surface before any firm does anything about an impaired professional in its midst. If there is a “performance issue” visible to management, it is likely that it existed for some time and harm to clients already could have occurred. The notion is reactive, not proactive. Isn’t that contrary to the essential philosophy of financial planning itself to look ahead, strategize and don’t wait for a crisis??

Waiting for a manager to call a special team assigned to address the problem is not the best approach, as we see it.  For one thing, most firms don’t have a special team that would serve the purpose of knowing what to do with an impaired advisor. Yes, every firm would be well protected if such a team were formed and that is something we always recommend. However, failing to screen advisors with any in-house tools when impairment is suspected is to ignore the lurking possibility of harm to clients.  What do we mean by an in-house tool? Start with a checklist.

On our website is a free downloadable Financial Advisor's Checklist: 10 Red Flags of Diminished Capacity to help you spot the warning signs in clients. There is no reason any firm could not use relevant parts of the same tool to spot signs of diminished capacity in its own employees. It is not across-the-board applicable to the professional as compared with a client showing red flags but some points do apply to anyone. For example, memory loss, failure to appreciate the consequences of decisions, confusion, loss of ability to process basic concepts are all on the checklist and are universal warning signs.

What Can You Do With An Advisor You Think Is Impaired?

Proactive steps are essential.  Here are our recommendations:

  1. First, record your observations of changes in the advisor’s behavior. For example, forgetting appointments, failure to meet on schedule with clients, seeing too many blank stares in your interactions with him or her, becoming withdrawn from interactions can all be signs of trouble a manager must address. They could be associated with cognitive impairment or with other health conditions. Managers need to ask the advisor about what they and other colleagues see that looks like a possible red flag.
  2. Ask about general health issues, which can directly impact how an advisor does the job of handling clients. Is it nosy? Yes. Is client financial safety at stake if you don’t ask? Yes. Take the risk of opening the conversation. That is smart. Waiting for a disaster is not.
  3. Establish an in-house policy for what should be recorded by colleagues and reported to managers about possible signs of cognitive decline and the direction you want to take after signs are identified. The policy should be in writing and distributed.
  4. Have a plan to closely watch the apparently impaired advisor.

Asking the advisor to work with someone to supervise transactions is one option. Reviewing how the advisor is managing his or her work at short intervals is another option. And with obviously impaired folks who do not themselves recognize their own cognitive changes (not an uncommon thing), have a suspension or graceful exit means to stop the impaired person from putting clients at risk.  This falls under what those conference speakers vaguely referred to as “other arrangements”. Be specific.

This is uncomfortable territory for managers, compliance officers and for colleagues of older advisors in firms. However, the FINRA poll is telling. If this problem were not rising in our midst, 65% of those polled would not be worried. If you are concerned where you work, get your copy of Succeed With Senior Clients: A Financial Advisor’s Guide to Best Practices, now or get a live or online presentation from us at AgingInvestor.com. Don’t put your firm and your clients at unnecessary risk.

By Carolyn Rosenblatt, RN, Elder law attorney, Consultant, AgingInvestor.com

Do Your Older Clients A Favor: Warn Them About This Scam

Do Your Older Clients A Favor: Warn Them About This Scam

Attempts to scam money from seniors never stop. And the thieves keep getting better at thinking up ways to extract information from older folks. Here’s another one—a different phony Medicare trick.

People hear ads on TV about genetic testing and how it can predict disease and protect them. They also hear ads that they’re not getting all the Medicare benefits they deserve. Who doesn’t want to get all the benefits they should get? It’s a perfect moment for scammers.

They may call your retirement-aged client and tell them that new genetic testing is available that Medicare will pay for, worth thousands of dollars. Of course, all your client has to do is to give them their Social Security number and the free testing kit, signup papers, or other inducement will be mailed to them immediately.

Let’s be clear: Medicare does not pay for genetic testing as a “new benefit”. If for any reason such testing were needed, a physician would order it and explain why it was needed. Such testing would not be ordered without any discussion with one’s MD.

Your client should never, ever give out a Social Security number or other personal information such as date of birth or address over the phone. Your client must never accept a genetic testing kit not ordered by one’s own doctor. If it is accepted and the cheek swab, DNA test or anything else is given to the sender, your client may be billed directly, potentially incurring a debt for thousands of dollars. It would be a sad day for your client to mail in a claim for reimbursement to Medicare for a fake benefit and realize that the claim is denied. They’re on the hook for the full price.

These kinds of scams are used to get information to commit identity theft and Medicare fraud. No matter how smart your client is, anyone can be caught off guard and tricked.

What Advisors Can Do

Here are some ways to let your client know you care about their financial safety.

  1. Prepare a friendly form letter to send to all clients over age 65 and inform them about this scam. Warn them not to fall for it.
  2. Keep abreast of all the latest scams in over 30 categories at the Federal Trade Commission, which explains what they are and how they work. Keep clients advised.

If identity theft has happened, direct your client to the Federal Trade Commission website for instruction on what to do.

Carolyn Rosenblatt, RN, Elder law attorney, AgingInvestor.com

About Carolyn Rosenblatt and Dr. Mikol Davis

Carolyn Rosenblatt and Dr. Mikol Davis are co-authors of The Family Guide to Aging Parents (www.agingparents.com) and Succeed With Senior Clients: A Financial Advisors Guide To Best Practices. Rosenblatt, a registered nurse and elder law attorney, has more than 45 years combined experience in her professions. She has been quoted in the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Money magazine and many other publications. Davis, a clinical psychologist and gerontologist, has more than 44 years experience as a mental health provider. In addition to serving his patients, Davis creates online courses and products to assist professionals and the public with understanding aging issues. Rosenblatt and Davis have been married for 34 years.

 

The Hole in The Senior Safe Act: Why Briefly Holding Transactions Is Not Enough To Stop Abuse

The Hole in The Senior Safe Act: Why Briefly Holding Transactions Is Not Enough To Stop Abuse

 The Senior Safe Act allows you to hold transactions when you suspect financial abuse of a client. The Act is designed, at least in theory, to allow time for the trusted contacts you have on file to take appropriate action. Many of those victimized by predators or manipulated by unscrupulous family have dementia and have lost their judgment about what makes sense financially. The Act urges you to get trusted contacts and provides that you are not breaking privacy rules to contact them in the reasonable belief that your client is being financially abused. The length of time you can hold a requested transaction can be as long as a month. This is where the Senior Safe Act has missed the mark.

 Let’s look at the reality of impaired elders who are in charge of their wealth on the family trust. The trust is in order, and if the elder recognizes that he or she is experiencing decline in mental ability, that trustee may choose to resign. Simple. But that is not what happens in too many cases. For many persons who have cognitive decline and dementia, the elder does not recognize that he is impaired at all. “I feel fine!” he tells his worried family. When asked to resign as trustee, having total control over (theoretically) millions of dollars in a trust, the elder flatly and stubbornly refuses. Meanwhile, financial abuse by predatory people can continue unabated.

 When an older person experiences cognitive decline, it typically has a very slow onset. Short-term memory loss does not raise enough red flags for those closest to the elder to take any action. “She’s just getting old” they say dismissively. But memory loss is often the first and earliest warning sign of Alzheimer’s disease, the most common form of dementia. The odds of having Alzheimer’s disease by age 85 are at least one in three.  Think about your own older clients. Some live well beyond age 85. The risk of dementia rises with age. Short-term memory loss interfering with daily life is not a normal part of aging.  Financial abuse and cognitive impairment often go together.

 When financial abuse reaches a visible level, the advisor may do what the law allows and call the trusted contact person, usually an adult child.  The advisor hopes that the call will somehow trigger something and the abuse will be stopped. But here is a reality check: The family can’t accomplish anything needed in two weeks or even a month if you hold transactions then. Here is a real case example of just such a situation, showing how long it really did take.

 In our work with a family at AgingParents.com we saw rampant financial abuse of an elder by a family member. The elder had dementia but had not been formally diagnosed by his doctor. Over 70% of his income was going to the predator. He was asked to resign as trustee by his two adult children, who were reasonably worried that he was going to give away all his cash and further encumber his home. The dad, whom we’ll call Gene, had been developing dementia for at least two years. He felt obligated to the predator and was totally powerless in resisting her demands for money. He just kept writing checks, draining his own resources. It was clearly a case of financial manipulation.

 We were involved in working to persuade Gene to allow what his family trust provided: to have his daughter, Jennie, become the successor trustee.  He agreed, then reneged. He accepted the logic and then refused to accept it. The kids had no choice but to use the law to take over control. Their father was too stubborn to resign as trustee when asked, even with the entire family presenting a united front, asking and respectfully begging.

 The trust, like many such documents provided that Gene could be removed as trustee by his appointed successor, his daughter, after two physicians had declared him to be incapacitated for handling his own finances. A court decision was not required. However, getting him to two doctors willing to assess him and put their observations in writing was a challenge that took months to accomplish. The total time spent getting the change of trustees accomplished according to the terms of Gene’s trust was eight months.

 His children were the trusted contacts in the advisor’s file. They knew about the abuse and were in agreement with the advisor that Gene had to stop being the trustee. The adult children had to hire consultants (AgingParents.com), have meetings, hire an attorney, and try various methods to get the job done.  Their time energy and thousands of dollars were expended to prevent an even worse outcome, which was being left to support their aging father if he were to totally deplete his own funds.

The takeaways:

  1. Though well intended, we do not expect that the Senior Safe Act will do much to stop financial abuse because of the short time allowed for a financial professional to hold transactions. In Gene’s case, the predator would have been happy to wait a mere two weeks or a month before resuming the financial manipulation of Gene.
  2. Know that any older impaired client may not understand that he or she is cognitively impaired and will ignore pleas to resign as trustee with total control over any family trust.
  3. If you see that an older client is showing signs of cognitive decline, do not wait until it gets worse. Reach out at the time of your first suspicions of trouble.  The family or other trusted persons may well have a better opportunity to persuade an elder to transfer power over finances to the appointed successor before complete loss of capacity. Expect this to take time.

In the case described above as a result of ongoing financial abuse, nearly all of Gene’s cash was depleted during the eight months of effort on the part of his adult children to have him removed.  The advisor did the right thing but too much of Gene’s cash was depleted in the period when the abuser could keep manipulating him for those months of effort by family to have him removed as trustee.

By Carolyn L. Rosenblatt, RN, Elder law attorney, AgingInvestor.com 

If you are seeing abuse and feel lost about how to stop it, contact us at AgingInvestor.com for a confidential consultation with our nurse-lawyer, geriatric psychologist team so you can do everything possible to protect your vulnerable client.