Is Your Aging Client Supporting An Unsuccessful Adult Child?

Is Your Aging Client Supporting An Unsuccessful Adult Child?

Feb 16, 2017 | aging, financial advisors, financial capacity, financial elder abuse, financial judgement, handling money for seniors

You may have an older client who has an adult child living in their home. We are not talking about co-housing or multi-generational households folks choose for a variety of sensible reasons. This is not about the daughter who gives up work to move in and take care of your aging client. Rather, this is a somewhat hidden population of adult children who have never quite been able to support themselves.

There may be a mental health issue, substance abuse or other condition which impairs the individual's ability to reliably earn a living. Some of these adults have never succeeded in the workplace. Others have had a setback of some kind and never were able to regain or keep employment afterward. These adult children of your clients may be middle aged, yet dependent on your client for the basics of life: food, clothing and shelter as well as other benefits.

At AgingInvestor.com, we hear from the families, usually the siblings of the adult child who does work yet who receives free lodging and support from the parent. The common thread is a co-dependent relationship between parent and the "problematic" adult child. The parents may feel guilty about the unsuccessful child, they may be intimidated by that offspring or they simply may lack the courage to insist on some other arrangement. You may be thinking, ok, so what's the problem? My client is fine. She has good income. She can do what she wants with it.

Don't draw that conclusion so fast. People are living longer than ever and as clients live on, they may need to liquidate some things to cover their increasing care needs. The family home is one of the things that can be liquidated, especially when assisted living is a better place for an elder client who can't live alone anymore.

The family may agree that your client's home must be sold to raise cash to meet caregiving needs. No one knows what to do with the sibling still living at that home. They won't move out.

Without addressing the issue in advance, this can get ugly. We have seen in the last year alone, several families who were involved in formal legal evictions of the dependent sibling who refused to leave the home. Would your client want that? In other instances, there is a nasty, expensive probate fight going on over the sibling refusing to leave the home even after the parent passes away. The inheritance is held up because the house can't go on the market.

Isn't planning for the future your job? These very unpleasant scenes can be avoided with good strategy initiated by you with your aging clients, about the future of that unemployed adult child who has no plan for what to do next. The family needs to explore every option for the needy sibling. Can he or she qualify for public benefits, such as disability or government-subsidized housing? Do the parents have the means to set up a trust to provide for his or her basic needs? Is there any other option for support? Delving into these things takes time. The social services system can be complicated. The time to start talking with your client about her unsuccessful 55 year old son at home is not on the eve of a crisis. The client who has allowed the situation to go on must be persuaded to make a change before that crisis. No one wants to look at this issue but it can only lead to bad outcomes if it is not explored.

Here are three things you can do now:

1. Find out from any aging client if he or she is supporting anyone. That's basic. Then get more detail. How long has the unemployed middle aged daughter been living in your client's home? What will happen to her when/if your client has to leave her home or sell it?

2.  Connect with your client's estate planning attorney, with permission of course, and see what planning is done for an heir who is not working and does not have a retirement plan herself.  Has your client provided for this need? Is your client's cash going to be tapped for supporting an adult child? Has a trust been set up and what does it allow for your client to do for the adult child and when?

3.  Get advice yourself about what options your client's adult child may have, should your client become impaired and unable to give her offspring support in the home. The county's department of health services and department of social services as well as nonprofit community service agencies are good places to start. Encourage your client to think it through and not burden any other children with an eviction case or probate mess in the future.

By Carolyn Rosenblatt, RN, Elder Law Attorney, & Dr. Mikol Davis, Gerontologist co-founder of AgingInvestor.com

The Hidden Truth About Adult Protective Services

The Hidden Truth About Adult Protective Services

Feb 13, 2017 | diminished cognition, elderly, financial capacity, financial elder abuse, finra, scammers, SEC

In all the proposed rules by FINRA and the SEC to address financial exploitation of seniors, advisors are urged to report suspected abuse to the local Adult Protective Services or to call the police. Unfortunately that is not always a solution. There seems to be a lack of clarity about how things work. Here's a typical scenario that illustrates an issue.

 

Myra is 87 and her daughter, Lexie has been taking advantage of her for years. Myra feels sorry for her daughter because she can't seem to hold a job. Never mind she has a drug habit. Myra has means and she often gives Lexie "loans" that are never repaid.

 

Lexie gets a power of attorney from Myra, goes with Myra to her financial advisor and tells the advisor that Myra needs $80,000 for a trip they are going to take. Myra is disabled and never travels. The advisor knows this. Advisor decides after seeing several of these demands for withdrawing Myra's funds under suspicious circumstances that Lexie is abusing Myra. The total amount withdrawn at Myra's request is over $150,000 in six months, which is highly unusual.

 

Advisor calls the police. They refer her to Adult Protective Services. APS takes a report over the phone, asks questions and then asks Advisor to fill out a report form. She fills it out and reports the recent questionable $80K demand and withdrawal and she lists the total taken of $150K. She puts Lexie's name on it as the person suspected of financially abusing Myra.

 

APS sends a social worker out to investigate the complaint and to visit Myra at home. Myra finds the worker to be very nice and they chat. "Has your daughter ever pressured you to give her money?" the worker asks. "No", says Myra. "Do you remember giving her gifts or loans totaling $150K this year?" the worker asks. "I don't think I did that"Myra says. The worker asks if she is in the habit of giving money gifts to Lexie and Myra says yes, that Lexie is her daughter and she needs some help sometimes. The worker concludes that giving money to Lexie is what Myra wants and the case does not go any further. No one has tested Myra to see if she is competent to understand the consequences of giving her assets to Lexie, particularly since she has two other adult children.

 

In this case the facts are not clear enough to prove that a crime was committed. APS will not recommend that Lexie be prosecuted because even though giving away money is not in Myra's best interests, she is assumed to be competent to do so. In this case APS is not solving any problem and takes no further action. If Myra did not want the funds to be given to Lexie it would be different and elder abuse could be proven perhaps. As is there is too much doubt about Myra agreeing to be taken advantage of by Lexie, no prosecutor could meet its burden of proof.

 

The Other Option

Lexie's other two siblings were not initially aware of the abuse by Lexie. Their potential inheritance is directly affected by their sister's actions and when they find out they call APS also. The case is closed and they get nowhere. They are furious.

 

They consider another option. If there is no crime here that can be proven, there may be a civil case. They contact an attorney who handles civil cases of elder financial abuse.   The attorney does an investigation and finds out that Lexie has bought a condo with the money taken from Myra. The attorney successfully proves that Myra was duped by Lexie and the matter is settled by Lexie's attorney agreeing to sell the condo and give the proceeds back to a fund set up for Myra in case she needs more cash as she ages. And the settlement agreement says that Lexie will inherit no part of the fund. Further, the power of attorney Lexie got is torn up and Myra appoints a more responsible agent, another daughter who now oversees all of Myra's finances.

 

With a misunderstanding of how law enforcement works, there is a belief that all one must do is report to APS and somehow, financial abuse will be stopped. But when APS finds insufficient proof, or a wiling victim like Myra, they do not intervene. They are essentially reporters to law enforcement but APS does not prosecute anything. A civil case is outside their sphere and a civil attorney must be consulted to explore whether one can pursue that possible way of recovering an elder's assets that have been wrongfully taken.

 

The Takeaway

The important thing to know here is that APS is limited in what it can do. A criminal case of any kind has to be proven "beyond a reasonable doubt." Any advisor who wants to keep senior clients safer needs to understand that a willing victim will pretty well destroy a criminal case of abuse. A civil case is a possibility as long as there is an asset (in Lexie's case, a condo) to get and someone who is not a willing victim (in Lexie's case, her siblings). One should know a competent elder abuse attorney to consult and find out if your client has that choice in taking legal action or if her heirs do. Making a few calls is the least you can do to protect your client.

 

By Carolyn Rosenblatt, RN, Elder law attorney, AgingInvestor.com

The Worst Misconception About Advisors and Elder Financial Abuse

The Worst Misconception About Advisors and Elder Financial Abuse

Jan 30, 2017 | aging, diminished cognition, elder investor, elderly, financial elder abuse, scammers

Imagine this: your aging client is 86 years old, slightly grumpy, and he thinks he knows better than just about everyone else on nearly everything. He's quite willing to follow your advice, though and that's what makes a good relationship with him.

 

Lately, he's got you worried. He is obsessed with the internet. He spends many hours a day on it and he tells you about this man he met online who has an amazing investment he wants to get into. When he starts telling you about it, it sounds like a scam of the worst kind. You warn him not to do it and he says you don't understand.

 

He asks you to liquidate one of his investments you manage. You do it. He tells you how happy he is that he's got this great thing going now. A month later he calls you and wants to liquidate a lot of his funds to raise some significant cash for his "friend" who has the scammer-sounding "investment". You say, "don't do this!" He won't follow your advice. This is new, and puzzling. What should you do?

 

Rules tell you that you must follow your client's instruction and that you are not supposed to reveal his financial information to anyone. Should you call Adult Protective Services? Can you? You are not sure what to do.

 

Here's the answer: you are permitted to report financial elder abuse. According to the regulators' Interagency Guidance on Privacy Laws and Reporting Financial Abuse of Older Persons, which discusses the issue in detail, you are also permitted to disclose this information to protect against or prevent actual or potential fraud.

 

But what if your client think his internet "friend" is fine even if you are seeing telltale signs of fraud in your client's interactions with the scammer? You can report the apparent crime in an online form to the FBI as long as you know enough detail from your client. I think anyone who suspects internet fraud should do this, even if it turns out to be some legitimate thing in the end. It probably isn't. And your client's money could all be gone if you do nothing. Would that be okay with you?

 

Financial professionals need to be clear about your role in preventing and stopping elder abuse. Law enforcement can't always stop the criminals but sometimes they do. No one can stop what is never reported to them. Do not be misled by the misconception that protecting your client's private information is supposed to stop you from reporting apparent fraud and abuse.

 

You could be the difference between your client's safety and your client being wiped out financially. Take a deeper dive and get very smart in an accredited one hour online course about stopping financial abuse. Click here now.

Carolyn Rosenblatt, R.N., Elder Law Attorney & Dr. Mikol Davis

co-founders of AgingInvestor.com and AgingParents.com

 

This Small Step Can Prevent Financial Disaster For Your Aging Clients

This Small Step Can Prevent Financial Disaster For Your Aging Clients

Jan 27, 2017 | aging, aging investor, declining health, diminished cognition, elder investor, elderly, finances for elders, financial advisors, financial capacity, financial elder abuse, financial judgement, handling money for aging parents, handling money for seniors, long term care, long term care insurance, medicare, senior investor, seniors finances

Do you have older clients who seem to be doing really well physically? Some of our aging folks are remarkably sharp and we can all be lulled into a false sense of security with them. This is a heads up warning about a real situation that you can perhaps help clients avoid by a simple step. Bear in mind that your older clients may be alert but still have trouble keeping track of the occasional bill. That can lead to a true financial disaster. Here's what happened to one person we met at AgingInvestor.com who could well be your client.

Ruth is 88, still quite independent, taking care of herself at home. She does her own shopping and cooking, drives and pays her own bills. Great at her age, right? But when it comes to memory, that's a problem from time to time. And forgetfulness plus an unforeseen glitch caused a financial nightmare for her. Here is what happened.

Ruth has Medicare and supplemental insurance. That extra 20% the supplement pays doesn't sound like a lot, unless you have a crisis and have to go to the hospital.

Ruth paid her bills by check each month. But sometimes her mail carrier made mistakes and put envelopes in the wrong box. That's just what happened with Ruth's supplemental insurance bill. She didn't pay the bill one month because she never got it. That was the glitch. Unfortunately that is exactly the month that she had a major health crisis and had to be hospitalized. She never knew that her supplemental insurer had missed a premium payment from her until they denied payment to the hospital for the amount due after Medicare paid the hospital in full. She was very upset and called them but they brushed her off when she told them what happened. She had never paid late nor had she ever missed a payment. They didn't care. Her bill for the amount Medicare didn't cover was over $80,000. They flatly refused to pay it.

She tried to call again and again but got nowhere. She sent a letter but received no response. Ruth's case is not the first time we've seen a situation when an older person fails to pay an insurance premium notice either because of illness, dementia, not receiving the bill or other valid reason. Some companies will allow reinstatement of coverage when the amount owed is paid in full. But Ruth's former insurer has been horrible; clearly to get out of the large bill they would have had to pay. They're probably happy about it but of course Ruth is distraught.

Now imagine that Ruth is your client. Most write checks by hand for paying bills, as they have done all their adult lives. Lots of people in their 80s don't use a computer or are only able to do so with many limitations. They don't use auto debit for paying bills automatically.

There is one thing you, the advisor, can do to prevent a disaster like Ruth's. Work with your aging client and their family to get them set up so that payments for ongoing, recurring expenses are auto debited from a bank account. This applies most especially to insurance premiums. As long as you are overseeing the finances for these older clients, think about this simple preventive strategy you can urge them to use to protect their financial safety. Sometimes no one thinks of it. Sometimes the family is also lulled into a false sense of security because the elder is so independent in other ways. Bill paying is a vulnerability and you can think of measures to make it less so.

That medical bill coming to a client because of a simple error, forgetfulness, or glitch can be a source of extreme stress. Take the time now to talk with your client about the prospect of auto pay for all of their recurring bills. Even if they are unsure of how to set it up, a family member, a friend or money manager can offer to do this for them. It's a small, basic measure but hugely helpful to prevent financial loss

A Lurking Danger You Need To Warn Your Clients About

A Lurking Danger You Need To Warn Your Clients About

Jan 12, 2017 | aging, aging investor, Alzheimer's disease, diminished cognition, elder investor, elderly, finances for elders, financial advisors, financial capacity, financial elder abuse, financial judgement, handling money for seniors, investor, scammers, senior citizen investor, senior investor, seniors finances, wealth transfer

A Lurking Danger You Need To Warn Your Clients About

There is nothing wrong with putting on a dinner or lunch for prospects while you give them a pitch about a product you like. But unfortunately, a free meal brings people out, especially older folks and they become sales targets for unscrupulous people. FINRA, in seeing how these seminars are too often a vehicle for fraud and exaggeration preying on unsuspecting elders, has issued a warning to seniors. You can be the messenger to provide a heads-up for your own clients about this.

Too many unethical people are using the setting of a free lunch to sell inappropriate investments.  The annuity scams are notorious for this. And the scammers love impaired elders who are so easy to fool.

As people age, about a third of them will develop Alzheimer’s Disease. Most of the victims of this insidious disease are women.  When the earliest signs of the disease emerge, research tells us that impairment of financial judgment is already underway. The predators have no trouble talking a senior who lacks the ability to see a scam coming into buying whatever they're selling. It happens every day, not just in the free lunch seminar.

FINRA's alert for investors about “free lunch” investment seminars is specific. Your older clients might not get that alert unless it comes through you. Here’s the gist of what FINRA wants seniors to know.

The FINRA Investor Education Foundation researched people over 40 to find out how many have been solicited with offers for a free meal seminar.  64 percent of respondents had been solicited, which means that the odds are, your clients will be among them. What the research also showed was that half of the sales materials contained claims that were apparently exaggerated, misleading or otherwise unwarranted. 13 percent of these seminars appeared to involve fraud, such as unfounded projections of returns and sales of nonexistent products

Slick and unscrupulous “advisors” and sellers have been at this for years, pitching unsuitable products. They’ve stepped up their game as the population ages. They want every target they can get. An easy way to warn your clients is to give them a one-sheet Client Update we have created for you. Get yours here or by clicking below and send it out to everyone in your book of business. Some of them are older clients and some have aging parents or grandparents who need to know about this.

You'll look good by showing that you care about what happens to your clients and they'll appreciate the message.

You can improve your expertise with your older clients in a book written especially for you, Succeed With Senior Clients, A Financial Advisor's Guide to Best Practices. Get your copy by clicking here.

Carolyn Rosenblatt, RN, Elder Law Attorney, AgingInvestor.com and AgingParents.com

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